It seems so obvious to me now, but I remember at the time it felt like a revolutionary thought: our bodies take on whatever emotions we can’t allow ourselves to feel. Gabor Maté taught me that many years ago when I read his book, When the Body Says No (2003).
Simply put, the reason we need to feel is that not feeling leads to all kinds of physical manifestations and emotional complications.
#The wisdom of trauma full
As Gabor Maté says in the introduction to the film, “We have to work our way back to feeling, when we are ready.” I’m going to piggyback on that and suggest an additional route we may not have considered: we can play our way back to full feeling as well.īut first we should explore the question: why would we want to feel in the first place if it hurts too much? This is a good question one that I often asked myself in the many years that I avoided sadness at all costs. Our body’s wisdom can take care of us by disconnecting from that which is too painful to bear. However, we are not meant to stay in this disconnected state. Gabor Maté (co-author of Hold On To Your Kids) speaks with depth and clarity, provocatively suggesting (as the title implies) that there is inherent wisdom in trauma. This is the message of the recently released documentary, The Wisdom of Trauma. And about who is, or isn’t, present with us in our pain.
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